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The Order of Mutual Recognition: You Should Experience It When You're Young -2
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Summarized by durumis AI
- We shared our concerns about parents' anxiety about their children's success and failure, and indiscriminate evaluations of women in their 20s. Through the conversation, we achieved deep empathy and self-reflection, and honestly revealed our worries and regrets in the process.
- The author, reflecting on the hearts of the older generation who wanted to convey what they wanted to say to their past selves to the younger generation, provides empathy for the difficulties and growth experienced at each stage of life, based on the author's experience of having a moment to reflect on oneself.
- The author tells a story of her own experience, reacting to the active performance of a 40-year-old entertainer, providing an opportunity to think about communication and understanding between the generations of 20s and 40s.
Continuing from Part 1...
Thought: If you are aware that this is your first life
Although this is a study from the United States,It was found that the process of finding tutors for children was linked to the parents' shame. It means that as parents, they are afraid that their children's academic underperformance will be interpreted as a sign of failure in their role as parents, because their identity as parents is inextricably linked to their children's success and failure. Maybe they remember moments in their lives when they were frustrated and gave up on their desires, whether financial or academic, and they are trying to convey to the only 20-year-old woman what they would have liked to say to themselves in the past, when they had the opportunity, as a parent, a senior, or an older adult passing by.
The key point is not how sincere, intentional, or truthful the speaker's story is. After all, the direction of the conversation is not towards me, but towards the life of the other person. Therefore, instead of evaluating and judging the other person, it would have been better if I had shown some consideration for the speaker and waited. That kind of leisure is the attitude that adults in this day and age should have and show, I thought.
We all live our lives for the first time. We were in our 20s for the first time, in our 40s, and we are experiencing the role of parents for the first time. That's why I think we don't need to understand or expect to be understood. Rather, it's about reflecting on ourselves and showing a more progressive side of ourselves to others.
I wrote a lot, but I shared similar content directly in the chat room. I was very nervous and my hands were shaking. As I watched the 40-year-old celebrity's performance (?), I kept thinking, 'Have I ever sincerely wished I was that person's best friend? I want to get off the phone right now.' On the other hand, I was very worried about whether I was any different from that person when I expressed my willingness to participate in the conversation.
I shared the story, 'We need to look back at ourselves before we judge and evaluate others so easily,' and sat there blankly for a while. Then, a message arrived that helped me stop my regret and worry about the situation.
What part of my imperfect story was gratefully experienced by this person? And can I say that I am proud of myself writing this article... The whirlwind of thought began again.
