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Unreasonable demands should be refused, of course
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- Fatigue from unreasonable demands from others is increasing, and this takes away my time and energy, causing stress.
- By clearly setting and keeping my boundaries, I can maintain my self-esteem without being swayed by others' unreasonable demands.
- Especially in dangerous or irrational situations, it is more effective to show direct boundaries through actions rather than setting boundaries verbally.
Sometimes you meet people who make unreasonable demands or requests. You may go to some lengths to comply with their demands, even if you don't quite understand why they make them. It's because you have a mindset of "good things are good things," which means that you truly believe that good things are good things.
But at some point, the fatigue from these unreasonable demands begins to grow. This is nothing short of a harsh penalty for living kindly to others rather than yourself. Ultimately, excessive stress affects your sleep and ruins important projects.
Sleeping Lady in a Room (1919)_Konstantin Andreevich Somov (Russian, 1869–1939)
-Can't you just do this much?
-It's not like you're the only one who's busy.
Some people may cross your boundaries in this way, taking your time and energy. The person who makes the request, not the one who receives it, is the one who decides whether the request is unreasonable or not. The same applies when you make requests to others. Even if the request is not unreasonable in your mind, it may be unreasonable to the other person.
I often meet rude people who make unreasonable requests that interfere with my writing... I would like to give kudos to this kind of people for making me realize again how important it is to protect myself with clear boundaries.
▶ Building self-esteem through boundaries will allow you to clearly recognize who you are, and to stand your ground and escape when others try to exploit or abuse you.
▶ Flexible boundaries are like doors that open and close. However, you are the gatekeeper.
▶ Lies are not always wrong.
▶ In the following situations, it is better to act first.
1) When dealing with someone who is intoxicated by drugs or alcohol
2) When there is a person wielding a dangerous weapon
3) When you encounter a person who is irrational, dangerous, and erratic in behavior
4) When a person repeatedly violates your boundaries, even after you have set them verbally
5) When you are more likely to argue with your opponent if you explain your boundaries verbally, or you could even be blamed instead
-Sharon Martin, that's over the line
